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  Real Example of an Online Chat


 

Below, is one of the four chats I include in my book, How To Attract Women Online.  It’s long, but that’s because it’s complete and unedited.  It’s a good example of an online chat that goes exceptionally well.  As you’ll see, the main keys to success are to be open and to be yourself.
 


 
Chat Example
Three from How To Attract Women Online
31 Year Old Woman I Met at a Web Site

Background:  This chat had an odd start.  I insulted a woman in a chat room.  I felt bad about doing so, so I contacted her privately to apologize.  It went from that to wild sex talk, to an even wilder ninety minute phone conversation.

John:  good morning


Woman:  no offense to you, but i really should have known better


John:  it’s silly in here, for sure


Woman:  it’s a last resort to go to a chat room and ask if people know anything…..


John:  sorry, i simply wanted to apologize for my comment in the chat room


Woman:  yeah, that was original, never hard that before. i’m just trying to find out if there is going to be a limit on the tickets this weekend


Woman:  per person, you know


John:  i’d be happy to help if i can.


John:  ah… I’ve heard 2 and 4, but nothing confirmed


Woman:  i knew it


John:  where are you seeing them?


Woman:  NYC…are you going to be able to?


John:  I am seeing them in NY, as well


John:  but I need 3 tix


Woman:  how are you going to get tickets?


Woman:  going to the hammerstein box office?


John:  and also need to figure out how the heck to get them


John:  I can’t, in DC on business


John:  I may send my brother down there


Woman:  what do you do?


John:  writing, some advertising/marketing


Woman:  interesting


John:  it’s rewarding work
John:  and it pays the bills


Woman:  do you know anything about the Hammerstein?


John:  it seats about 3,000 …


John:  is located, I believe, on 35th between 8th and 9th


Woman:  does it have a box office? i’ve been trying to call there as well, but to no avail


Woman:  it’s on 34th


John:  and is gorgeous inside


Woman:  i’ve heard it’s really nice


John:  i have not been able to get thru either


John:  they are for sure NOT making this easy


Woman:  i know.…it’s making it hard for me


John:  🙂


John:  well, we’ll have two chances at least


John:  this show and the US tour following the Euro tour


Woman:  right….our very good friends are going to see them in London in June


John:  sweet


Woman:  i can’t go


John:  I haven’t seen them in years, so I am rather excited!


John:  and they do put on a great show


John:  but the 5 year gap between albums is a little much


Woman:  i think there where some legal issues that prevented them from recording


John:  hmm


Woman:  did you listen to A Perfect Circle at all?


Woman:  we saw them 3 times


John:  yes, don’t like it too much


John:  sounds like bad Tool


Woman:  what?????????


John:  but that’s just me


John:  hey, to each his own


Woman:  uh oh, them’s fighting words….


Woman:  just kidding


Woman:  you’re right, it’s not 1960 Russia


John:  even Schism sounded too… too polished… too clean and produced


Woman:  ok now….i was thinking about this last night


Woman:  regarding Schism


John:  i like the raw sound I am used to from Tool


John:  Schism is too clean


Woman:  i was listening to Undertow last night….and yeah, i agree with you somewhat


John:  Undertow is still my favorite


John:  Aenima is also excellent


Woman:  like they’re trying a little TOO much to be the “mind-expanding” epic type music that started to evolve on Aenima


John:  yes


John:  exactly


Woman:  i know, Third Eye is my favorite ever….so i’m into that…but Schism is, i don’t know…


Woman:  not Third Eye


John:  what I like in music is emotion, their last two CDs were laden with emotion, and Schism is brimming with clean, studio worked sounds


Woman:  and the lyrics are very repetitive….


John:  yes, they are


Woman:  and dare i say…..pretentious???


John:  and the vocal over-dubs are rather run of the mill


John:  and not necessary for someone with such an amazing voice


Woman:  but there are some crazy rhythms and time signatures


John:  no doubt


Woman:  i think i counted a 5/4 or a 5/8 in there…


John:  they are killer musicians, and it’s hard to fuck that up


Woman:  i agree


John:  but in contrast … the chili peppers californication album is awesome, with no earth shattering studio sound, just damn good music


Woman:  i haven’t listened to it….i got turned off by their commercialism…. association with MTV and all that


John:  gotcha


John:  bear in mind where they came from when they started


Woman:  Mother’s Milk and Blood Sugar Sex Magic are two of my favorite albums


Woman:  i know i know…


Woman:  and i know it’s not their fault….


John:  they originally toured naked to get media attention cuz they were starving and broke


Woman:  and people should be recognized and compensated for their hard work


Woman:  and i do think they have talent…


Woman:  how old are you?


John:  25


John:  you?


Woman:  31


John:  cool


John:  age….. numbers


Woman:  i like you’re name…OpenMind……that’s one of my favorite things on earth, an open mind

Side Note:  In chat rooms I always use the name “OpenMind.â€