Email Tips : Write Email, Send Email and Avoid Spam

Avoiding Spam

To browse ads or place a personal, most sites require you to set up a profile. This usually means that you’ll have to give them an email address. That said, I suggest you create a separate, new email account for this purpose. This way, if a site has a tendency toward sending you unwanted email, your primary email account won’t get bombarded with crap.

If you find someone you are interested in emailing, here are some tips. First off, look over their personal ad and try to notice things. Is it concise, long, playful, serious, and so on? In order to gain connection and rapport, you want to send them an initial email written in the style that they use in their personal ad.

The same holds true if someone contacts you. Notice how they wrote their email and try to respond in like manner. This is a good way to make a great first impression. And when you are competing for attention with so many other people, first impressions might be all you get.

Follow-Up Emails

Ultimately, you want to let another person see the real you and it’s foolish to put on an act. While it is important to try to gain rapport on the first email by writing in a style familiar to the other party, you don’t want to do this for too long.

Remember, some people get hundreds of responses a month to their personal ad. With your initial email, you want to separate yourself as best you can by showing the person a familiar style. But once you distinguish yourself and have caught the person’s interest, be yourself. If at that point you two don’t click, move on. There are hundreds of thousands of other people to try.

Email Subject Lines

Like you personal ad’s headline, an email’s subject line is the item that gets attention. What you write in your subject line can be the difference between whether your email gets read or whether it gets deleted.

If you can control what you write in the subject of the email, try to say something that connects to the other person’s keenest point of interest. For instance, if they mention ninety times that they love music, mention this in the subject line of your email. Spend a minute or two on this, because it may mean the difference between whether this person opens your email or someone else’s.

Email Content

Like the subject line, you want the words in your email to convey connection to the person reading it. Look at their personal ad and ask the following questions:

What 5 things are most important to this person?
Is their writing length short, long, or medium length?
How’s their grammar: do they use slang, capitalize the first letter of sentences, spell everything correctly, and so on?
What are their hobbies and interests?

There is a lot of power in answering those four questions. One, they easily let you get to know the other person. More importantly, don’t you think that the answers to those questions will help you to write to that person in a way where they really feel connection with you? Absolutely.

It’s not always necessary to get this involved in the online dating process. However, I have found that the more I do up front, the easier the dates come. This is why I usually set aside a little time when I am looking through personal ads or responding to them. And my resultant success is always well worth the effort.