MAY
2003
Sex and
Dating Tips Newsletter
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Proven Sexual Techniques and Dating Advice
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by John Francis
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How and Where to Find Love
Premier Personals shows you the web’s best online dating sites. But sometimes it’s fun, and faster, to meet people without
using the Internet. This article focuses on showing you the best places
places to meet people outside of the Internet. By the way, we’re not only
discussing meeting new people for romance, you can also use the following
techniques to meet new friends.
How easy is it to meet people?
For some people it’s easy to
approach a person they don’t know and strike up a conversation, for others it
can be incredibly difficult. If you don’t find meeting and conversing with
new people easy, then this article won’t do you much good. After all,
knowing where to go is not going to help you much if, once you get there, you’re
too shy or too nervous to talk to someone.
If you are shy, lacking in confidence, or nervous around people, the first step
is to eliminate these issues. This article focuses on where to meet
people, not how to build confidence or how to boost self esteem. If you
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If you don’t have any problems with meeting new people and starting
conversations, let’s discuss the best places to find people. The first
step is to …
Go somewhere where you
can easily start a conversation
Ideally, the best places to
meet people are places where you can easily talk to people. You
want to easily be able to start and carry on a conversation with someone.
If a restaurant is filled with people, you generally don’t want to walk up to
someone at their table (although I have done this five or six times and did on
two occasions get a number). But there are much easier ways than this.
A book store is great example of a place where it’s easy to approach someone and
strike up a conversation. One, you can approach someone when no one else
is around. This makes things a lot more relaxed since you’re not
performing in front of a crowd. Two, you can easily start a conversation
simply by discussing whatever types of books they’re looking. Three, you
can have an innocent conversation without looking like you’re trying to pick
them up. If the conversation doesn’t go well, you simply walk away.
If it does go well, you can simply see if they’d like to grab a coffee (or
lunch, dinner, or whatever).
That’s what an ideal place to meet someone should be like. It should be
easy to start a chat, comfortable, and should allow you to easily continue a
conversation if the initial stages go well.
Meet people in places that
interest you
When trying to meet people, it
helps to go to places that interest you. The reasons:
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You’ll have more fun
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You’ll have something
to talk about
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You’ll know what you’re
talking about
I find a book store ideal
because I love to read and it’s an easy place to talk to people. If you’re
not into reading or hanging around book stores, there are other options.
Look for places that interest you, where it’s easy to talk to people and easy to
strike up a conversation.
If you like music, a great place to go is a record store. There are
usually a good number of people in a record store, so you won’t have trouble
finding people to talk to. You and the people there have an interest in
common. Plus, it’s easy as can be to start a conversation. If you
approach someone looking at CDs, for example, any of the following work well:
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What did you think of their last album?
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Have you ever seen them in concert?
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What’s your favorite song?
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Do you know if they’re going on tour
soon?
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I hear the lead singer is sleeping with
his sister (hey, it will get someone’s attention!)
You can see just how easy it is
to approach someone. You simply go somewhere that (1) interests you and
(2) is easy to have a conversation. We saw that book stores and record
stores work very well. And there are plenty of other great spots to meet
people.
If you like Nascar, go to a race. If you like movies, go to a video
store. If you like nice clothing, go to the clothing section of a
department store. Any time you see someone you might like, simply strike
up a chat. It’s that simple. A lot of people are nervous about
approaching people they don’t know, so let’s discuss …
Starting a conversation
Starting a conversation with
someone is really very easy. The simplest way to do it is to ask someone a
question or two. Take our above example with the record store, for
instance. As you can see by that example, getting a conversation started
is easy. You saw someone looking at a particular CD or a particular group,
and we used questions to get things started: what did you think of their last
album … what’s your favorite song … and so on. This is easy.
Questions are the perfect way to start a conversation. The reason is, the
person’s answer allows you to create the flow and direction of the
conversation. If you ask, “What did you think of their last album,”
and the person says, “It was okay,” you can easily take this in a lot
of directions. An easy way to do that is by asking a second
question. For example:
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I agree. I liked the one before it
better. What do you think?
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Do you think it was better than their
previous album?
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Where there any songs on it that you
really liked?
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Are you sure the lead singer’s not
sleeping with his sister?
This is very, very easy. And
it works. Remember, you are asking a person questions. And if
there’s one thing that most people love to do, it’s giving people their
opinion. Allowing someone else to share their opinion makes them feel
important. After all, we all want to think our opinions matter.
In addition, questions make for a casual, non-threatening conversation.
The person you are talking to doesn’t feel like a piece of meat; they don’t feel
like they’re being hit on. This is a great environment for them to feel
free to chat with someone.
However, this is also excellent for you. If it goes well, you can easily
ask them if they’d like to get together. If it doesn’t go well, you can
easily walk away, without being rejected and without feeling like an
idiot. How can you beat that? In a nutshell …
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Go somewhere where you can
easily start and carry on a conversation
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Go somewhere that interests
you
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Use questions to start and
carry the conversation
Meeting new people is that simple.
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