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SEPT 2003

Sex and Dating Tips Newsletter
Proven Sexual Techniques and Dating Advice 

by John Francis

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Special Feature
Tip of the Month  Premier Personals Featured by University of Texas

On September 8, 2003, the president of our site, John Naposki, was interviewed by the University of Texas.  His interview was featured in a subsequent University of Texas article titled, “Dating Web Sites Offering More Online Alternatives.”  We’d like to thank The University and the author, Omaira Galarza, for turning to us for feedback about online dating.

This Month’s Online Dating Tip
Tip of the Month  Effective Use of Email in Online Dating

Email is an important component of online dating.  Finding the people you like is the easy part — email is where you convince a person to get to know you or convince them to avoid you.  This is big.  That said, let’s look at how to effectively use email in online dating services. 

Avoiding Spam

To browse ads or place a personal, most sites require you to set up a profile.  This usually means that you’ll have to give them an email address.  That said, I suggest you create a separate, new email account for this purpose.  This way, if a site has a tendency toward sending you unwanted email, your primary email account won’t get bombarded with crap.

Setting up a free email account is fast and easy.  I recommend Yahoo email, but many people people like HotMail.  Either way, you’ll ensure that your main email address doesn’t get slammed with unwanted email.

Initial Email Correspondence

If you find someone you are interested in emailing, here are some tips.  First off, look over their personal ad and try to notice things.  Is it concise, long, playful, serious, and so on?  In order to gain connection and rapport, you want to send them an initial email written in the style that they use in their personal ad.

The same holds true if someone contacts you.  Notice how they wrote their email and try to respond in like manner.  This is a good way to make a great first impression.  And when you are competing for attention with so many other people, first impressions might be all you get.

Follow Up Email

Ultimately, you want to let another person see the real you and it’s foolish to put on an act.  While it is important to try to gain rapport on the first email by writing in a style familiar to the other party, you don’t want to do this for too long.

Remember, some people get hundreds of responses a month to their personal ad.  With your initial email, you want to separate yourself as best you can by showing the person a familiar style.  But once you distinguish yourself and have caught the person’s interest, be yourself.  If at that point you two don’t click, move on.  There are hundreds of thousands of other people to try.

Email Subject Lines

Like you personal ad’s headline, an email’s subject line is the item that gets attention.  What you write in your subject line can be the difference between whether your email gets read or whether it gets deleted.

If you can control what you write in the subject of the email, try to say something that connects to the other person’s keenest point of interest.  For instance, if they mention ninety times that they love music, mention this in the subject line of your email.  Spend a minute or two on this, because it may mean the difference between whether this person opens your email or someone else’s.

Email Content

Like the subject line, you want the words in your email to convey connection to the person reading it.  Look at their personal ad and ask the following questions:

  • What 5 things are most important to this person?
  • Is their writing length short, long, or medium length?
  • How’s their grammar: do they use slang, capitalize the first letter of sentences, spell everything correctly, and so on?
  • What are their hobbies and interests?

There is a lot of power in answering those four questions.  One, they easily let you get to know the other person.  More importantly, don’t you think that the answers to those questions will help you to write to that person in a way where they really feel connection with you?  Absolutely.

It’s not always necessary to get this involved in the online dating process.  However, I have found that the more I do up front, the easier the dates come.  This is why I usually set aside a little time when I am looking through personal ads or responding to them.  And my resultant success is always well worth the effort.

Proven Ways for Men to Attract Women  Proven Ways for Men to Attract Women

For those of you who have read my articles and newsletters, and are interested in looking into my books, here’s how:

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How To Attract Women Online — The keys to finding romance at online dating sites and chat rooms, including in-depth instructions for writing winning personal ads, how to effectively respond to ads, what to do in chat rooms, and a great deal more.

The Master Dating Course — This is simply all three of my books, wrapped into one, and priced at a huge discount.  If you want to master every angle of attracting women and being great in bed, this is the book for you.


“I have received other manuals and none of them were as well written as yours!  I am impressed.  It is easy to read and understand.  Your “secret pick-up-line” works!  The literature also goes into detail about confidence and goals.  I have read many other dating books/manuals and this is the best!  This is the first one that made me believe I can do it!  Thanks again John and good luck!”
Aarin E. – Utah

Read more testimonials from readers of my books

Send Us Your Feedback and Suggestions  Feedback and Suggestions 

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That’s it for this issue.  Thanks for reading Sex and Dating Tips!


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